well i have good news and good news.
went to the geneticist today for the little baby and his parents did not come to the appointment, which made for a stress-free, lovely, almost holy experience. ;)
the other good news?
he does NOT have fetal alcohol syndrome. woohooooooooo!
one by one, we are checking off the boxes. no fetal alcohol, no damage from shaken baby. yeehaw!